Instead of playing the clueless male and setting both of you up for disappointment by buying the “wrong gift,” here are some strategies you can employ to help ensure you buy her something she will really cherish:
See what she already wears. Just by being a little observant of the kinds of earrings, rings, necklaces or bracelets she wears, you can get a good idea of the type of metal she likes; the type of gemstone (diamonds or colored stones) she prefers; the size and shape of the stones she favors; the styles and designs she is partial to, etc. This also will give you some gift ideas for matching items (such as a pair of three-stone earrings to match a three-stone pendant she already owns.)
Look in her jewelry box. This is one tried and true method for determining the kind of jewelry she likes – as well as discovering what she still needs to complete her jewelry wardrobe.
Ask family or friends for advice. Mothers, sisters, best friends and other females close to your loved one’s heart will often know EXACTLY what kind of jewelry she wants – or they can at least steer you in the right direction.
Go “window shopping” as a couple. Next time you are out shopping together, subtly “pass” by a jewelry store window and see what kinds of pieces excite her. You can use the same tactic for catalogs, TV or the Internet. The key is to get her talking about the kind of jewelry she likes.